1. It’s not about impressing someone so that they want to be with you. It’s about finding someone you can spend lots of time with i.e. months or years or the rest of your life. It’s about finding the person that complements your personality or harmonises with you.
2. If you’re not stimulated at your local bar on Saturday night, you are not likley to meet anyone there that will make your evening more interesting/exciting. Alternatively try not to drink the boredom away, instead, think of somewhere else to go next time, something that you may really enjoy. If your friends don’t want to go with you, go by yourself.
3. If your friends/associates have funny stories about a potential date, you need to think ‘would this type of behaviour really work for me in a relationship’. Its likely that the situation/behaviour will reoccur, will it demolish your infatuation?
4. Go to see films/performances by yourself. You should not let the fact that you are not with someone stop you visiting, parks, museums and concerts. When you are part of a couple, you miss being free to do what you want when you want. Being single means you do not have to compromise your plans/desirers.
5. Finding a romance is just one of many things you can try to achieve at one time. Try to make it a priority but not an obsession. Coming across as obsessive may not be as attractive as you would want it to be.
6. Sharpen up your gaydar. It will make your life much less stressful.
7. Your first meeting is not an interview for marriage. It’s just a test for a second date. It is hard to fall in love while analysing every detail of your first date.
8. Sometimes guys have little irritating ways of doing things. Sometimes they have little behaviours that indicate a lack of respect. If you wouldn’t let your friend’s pals talk to him/her that way, don’t put up with it yourself.
9. If your potential partner says that s/he is too damaged for you (or too unstable, or too anything), just take their word for it. Even if it is their low self-esteem talking, you’re probably not a physiologist/psychiatrist (doctor patient relationships may not be right for you either) basically you are not going to be able to fix them. And it’s probably just another way of saying “I’m just not interested”.
10. Don’t worry about potential partners rejecting you for being overweight, too tall, too short, too anything. People who are “not the right fit” for you are out there. The quicker you remove them from your life, the happier you’ll be, It’s just as likely that, you probably would have rejected them for not having seen your essential piece of pop culture (band, film or whatever you are into) anyway.